one of the more memorable moments of our team building was when j disclosed his gender identity (tama ba, kaloy and isao, ang paggamit ng term?). he spoke in codes but only those who didn't know his sexual preference or his gender identity failed to understand his message.
it wasn't only my friend who was "liberated" but also us who knew. many of the people at work had an idea about the "real" him but couldn't really confirm it from anybody. so a few of us, to whom j "came out", knew for sure. but whenever we'd talk in the gazebo or in the canteen or in the front lobby, we have to always remember to speak in hushed tones whenever "this topic" or topics related to "it" was being discussed. j would shush us if we spoke a little over 1/2 decibel. sometimes, we'd have to think of a girl's name that we can use as a code for his crush. it was hard. it was even harder when people would ask us.
now that j is out, we, his friends, have also been "liberated."