Saturday, May 21, 2005

a hetero's take on gay issues

aids victim? third sex? such politically incorrect terms.

i first became conscious of being politically correct when it comes to matters concerning this topic when friend-colleague from abc 5 jove francisco commented on an i-witness episode about gays.

then came various inputs about the phrase third sex. even women's groups don't approve of the term. what do people really mean when they say third sex, to whom are they referring? if there's a third sex, who's the first sex? di naman ako makakapayag na mga lalaki ang first sex. at dahil naturally objective ako, di rin naman sigurong maganda at fair para i-claim ng mga kababaihan na kami ang first sex. for women empowerment ako pero di naman ito salungat sa equality of the sexes, di ba?

then nelson, kara and i got into a discussion about the phrase "aids victim". kung may aids victim, may aids suspect din ba?

mas na-enlighten ako sa isyung ito actually nung ginawa ko sa reporter's notebook ang isang storya tungkol sa anti-sexual discrimination bill ni rep etta. may mga pananaw naman akong tugma sa kanilang ipinaglalaban. meron din silang mga posisyong pareho sa mga advocacy ko.

although more filipinos are starting to have an open mind about these issues, it may take a while before pinoys overcome their homophobia totally. even i, na binansagang babaeng bakla sa samaskom, at one time or another, have acted or said something that may be offensive to gays. at least, several groups and individuals have taken the first step in enlightening our minds. the next step is up to us heteros.

10 comments:

fried-neurons said...

kasi by and large hindi pa widely spread ang concept sa pilipinas that gender identity (i.e. sex) is separate from sexual orientation. common misconception ng madaming tao eh badings want to be girls and tibós want to be boys, when that isn't the case at all most of the time.

confusing ba? hahahahaha

tinapa said...

sobra! ano ulit yon? what's my name?

fried-neurons said...

hahaha. ewan natin. prinomote ko nga pala ang blog mo kina winnie & april. bayaran mo ako ng PR fee.

mumble mumble

overratedbitch said...

(nakiki-epal)

ganito kasi yan, manay tina: example ako: transsexual woman (male to female). hiwalay ang isyu ko ng gender identity sa sexual orientation (in my case, bisexual).

kasi, tingin ko talaga, babae ako (gender identity). pero kung kanino ako attracted (sexual orientation), hindi automatic na sa lalaki lang. in my case, i am also attracted to lesbian/bisexual women.

(naalala ko na yung friend mong isa pa, si isaw... hahaha. sorry, nag-feeling ako ha!)

tinapa said...

fn, buti naman. ipromote mo pa lalo ang blog ko. at dahil sa inyo ni winnie, sobrang addict na kami rito sa office sa blogs ni badinggerzie. hahaha! gusto ko siyang maging friend!
issey, one more time, this time, in english. it just goes to show how much heteros don't know about gays and lesbians.

fried-neurons said...

por ejemplo...

meron akong kadaldalan dati over the 'net...

He was born a she. When he was men, therefore kung iisipin natin eh straight woman siya. BUT... she also was transgendered, kasi feeling niya boy siya trapped in a woman's body. So sex change operation siya (female-to-male trannie). So ngayon boy na siya. And he is still attracted to males. So ngayon eh di bading na siya. Fun, diba?

tinapa said...

ang sad naman nun.

at magulo para sa isang straight.

pero kaya bang labanan ang kabadingan o pagiging lesbiana? dahil may na-interview ako dati. nagpa-opera para maging girl. tapos na-convert coz of religion. tapos nagpapakalalaki ngayon.

may gay friend kasi ako. 16 girlfriends. lahat na-dyug pa niya. tapos, yung isa muntik niyang pakasalan dahil ganun daw niya ka-love. nagka-jowa siya ng guy na married with a child, na datiy pilit nilabanan ang kanyang kabadingan pero apparently, di niya nakayanan. sabi ng gay friend ko, di kayang labanan. sisingaw at sisingaw.

overratedbitch said...

oo, tingin ko hindi kayang labanan. pero it can change over time. pero hindi ibig sabihin, "conscious effort" yung pagbabago. in the same way na ang isang bading, may posibilidad na maging isang "straight" na lalaki (pero antawag na yata sa kanya dapat, bisexual, diba?). and this (possibly) applies to all, i think. ito kasi yung premise ng fluidity of gender, esp if the main issue is sexual orientation. hindi nagma-matter kung ano yung mahal mo (partner). mahal mo sya e. kung titingnan, mas dalisay na pag-ibig diba? or atraksyon. at the same time you still maintain your gender identity.

tinapa said...

again, again, again...
walang katapusan ito. kahit siguro isang oras tayong mag-chikahan about this, di ko pa rin siguro mage-gets. basta para sa kin, ang importante, kung anong gusto ng isang tao, kung ano man siya, hayaan na natin. puwera na lang kung ikaw ang type niya at di mo siya type.

overratedbitch said...

sensya na kung makulit. :(